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A Little Lesson From Cake Pops

by | Sep 21, 2020 | Faith journey, Motherhood | 0 comments

Two cake pops, three kids. 

As we were waiting in the Starbucks drive-through, I warned my middle child that if she made another bad choice, she would not get a cake pop. 

But before we ordered, she threw something at her brother, a bad choice.

When we pulled up to the window and got our order, I watched her heartbreak, and tears flowed as she realized the consequence of her choice. And it broke my heart right along with hers.

Growing up, when my dad was disciplining me, he would sometimes say, “this hurts me more than it hurts you.” I would get so mad. How dare he say that?  He was not the one being punished! 

Fast forward 20 years, and now as a parent myself, I understand entirely. 

Indeed I want to give my kids the world!  It truly does hurt sometimes being the disciplinarian, but wow, is it necessary.

One of my favorite chapters of the Bible says, “My child, don’t reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you. For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.” Proverbs‬ ‭3:11-12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The fact is that, It does our children no favors when we play the “nice guy” and refrain from correcting bad behavior. It shouldn’t be our goal to be their friend. They need to be taught right from wrong and to understand from a young age that bad choices have consequences. (As a side note, I do hope that when my children have grown, we will be good friends, but now is not the time.)

I don’t always get this right. I sometimes do a poor job of following through when I give warnings.  

The Lord is so gracious to me, and I try to show the same sentiment to my kids.  But I also try to remember that, discipline is an act of love and that they will eventually reap benefits from it. 

 “No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward, there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” Hebrews‬ ‭12:11‬ ‭NLT

One positive takeaway from today’s experience was to grab the chance to empathize with my daughter and let her feel her emotions. 

Part of me wanted to distract her and give her something fun to focus on. But I refrained from trying to put a Band-Aid on her pain. When we got home, I held her, let her cry, and told her, “I know it’s hard.”

Friends, parenting is so hard!  Keep up with the hard work. 

Do you have an example of lovingly disciplining your children even though it was challenging?


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