At times I wonder what God wants me to do with my day, week or even the season of life I’m in. Then there are very obvious things that I know he wants.
He desires for me to go about life without arguing or complaining. I’ll admit that I fail at that. All. The. Time. 🤦🏻♀️
“For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Philippians 2:13-15 NLT
I can easily notice and recall the people in my life who complain often. I’m sure you can, too. It’s not pleasant being around it and I’ve realized that most people don’t even notice how much they complain! Then a lightbulb went off and I remembered that I am one of them. 💡
I try my hardest to be self-aware and always mindful of areas in my life which I can improve. This is the latest area He has brought blaringly to my attention in a new way.
I notice it all around me. People argue on social media. My children are constantly complaining all day long. It seems so silly but I’ve even noticed the birds in my yard chase and fight with one another. He is graciously showing me how absurd it all is. And how it’s like a clanging gong to be on the receiving end. 😖
It seems most women like to vent. They like to be heard and seen. I get that and I feel that myself. I don’t think venting is wrong especially with trusted friends who love you and know your heart. But I know for myself personally it can just get out of hand. I actually have a hard time deciphering sometimes whether I am venting or complaining. (Although it’s becoming more obvious to me as I pray and seek his will.) I even talked to my husband recently and told him to use a codeword if he feels like I’m complaining too much. We’ll see how that works. 😆 I truly do want to be better though.
Instead of spending so much time venting I’ve decided to try something new and my inspiration was divine. A little further on in the book of Philippians it says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 NLT
So I’ve started taking it to God in prayer. Using a prayer journal and writing it out. On the really hard days when everything is going wrong and I just feel so frustrated and like I have ample reason to complain- I pour it all out with pen on paper and I get it off my chest. But I don’t stop there. I TELL him everything I need and everything I’m feeling and then I THANK him for all of the good things in life and my many blessings.
I’m trying to be a good example to my children. I think it comes so naturally to whine and complain especially for these littles. How can I tell them not to do it when I’m doing it myself? *Be the change you wish to see in the world*