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You are Not Meant to Fit In

by | Feb 16, 2022 | Faith journey, Friendship, Marriage, Motherhood | 6 comments

All my life, I have struggled to fit in. 

It has brought much anguish, tears, and bitterness over the years.

Today, when was I driving in the car, God lit up a light in my head: 

He said: “Actually, I didn’t create you to fit in. You are not built to fit in a box.” 

So many people are living in their boxes. And assign other people they know to their perspective boxes. 

When I was little, I wanted to fit in with my peers.

When I had kids, I wanted to fit in with moms’ groups. 

When I started to write and paint, I searched how other people write, what would be acceptable to a certain group’s taste; how other artists paint, what kind of art is exhibited in galleries. 

But I am not meant to fit in.

There are billions of people in the world, but there is a different DNA in each person’s blood, and unique fingerprints in each of our hands. Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t it the way God proves to us: we are meant to be different and unique? 

When we get out of our box mentality, the sense of freedom is exhilarating.

You will always have different looks, different accents, different backgrounds, and different families.

It’s their loss if they don’t accept you because you are different than them.

It’s their business if what you do and say doesn’t fit in their little boxes.

You only answer to One. 

You only follow in One’s footsteps.

You only need One’s approval.

Thank you, Jesus. Thanks for the freedom, and thanks for your love.

Be blessed



  1. Brittney

    Love this, Ying! So grateful for you and your wisdom, beautiful friend! 😘

  2. Marlene Rajan Gulati

    Amen! Amen! To that!
    Exclusivity minus the Ego = Inclusitivy! Treat everyone with Love & Grace! Don’t ever let anyone make you doubt yourself!

  3. Darla Czeropski

    I love this! You would fit in with our women’s community! Would love to follow you and hope you will follow us!

    We have moms poster content feed on Mondays. And because your an artist you will enjoy our 3rd Saturday feed. Tuesdays we have a writer’s feed, too. Would love for you to write a blog on our website!

    Check us out on FB @ohsofree and reach out to me on [email protected] Czeropski. My first book came out on in Jan.

    • Ying McLane

      Thank you so much Darla, just subscribed your website. Yes I would love to collaborate with you! Will contact you soon.

  4. Karen L Wedel

    I love this! I work in a family business with aunts, uncles, father, sister, 1st and 2nd cousins. Truly I know this pattern of fitting into others expectations and trying to break out! Thank you for posting this as it reminds me to whom I belong and desire to please.

    • Ying McLane

      Thank you so much for your kind words. Just followed your IG.


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